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Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Words

The power of words. So many of you remember my rant on the lovely mom I met that told me if this baby is another boy, then I must be a good boy mom. This was evidently supposed to be a compliment? ... I'm not really sure. However, she was a mom I had met one or two times. Our children are in the same kindergarten class. Now, some time has passed since we originally talked about what a great! BOY mom I am. I do have to agree. I mean, my hair is hardly ever done, my makeup is sometimes done, but most likely not, and the last time I wore a dress Lion remarked, Hey Mom - why are you wearing girl clothes?

So as time has passed the aforementioned mom invited me to join her carpool after seeing me there two times/day every other week. So now there are three of us. And we talk on a regularish basis about the transport of our children. What she doesn't know is that I have a knack for names and faces. If I meet you, and I mean really meet you, chances are that months down the road I will remember your name and face ... or at least your face, which can lead to awkward moments where I appear to be a stalker. Yesterday I saw said Mom at the Kindergarten Christmas party, and you know what she said, "Oh! You're pregnant?" Okay ... I guess I'm not memorable. Or maybe it's because my HAIR and MAKEUP were actually done (and before 8:30 in the morning). Totally different creature.

But you know what - her words upset me that day, and I guess still do to this day because there is hidden meaning behind them -- to me at least. The lesson this has taught me is that one flippant phrase might fly out of my mouth one day and be lost to the wind, but it might have a lasting impact on those who hear it. As with most things Kara, the point doesn't really hit home until I am the one affected. Guess I need to start watching what I say.

And start doing my hair and makeup. Here's to 2010!

3 comments:

mamasteph said...

Hair and makeup are overrated, right? :) It is a rare thing for me to have either one done before I drop the kids off at school. Luckily they aren't old enough to be embarassed that I'm dropping them off in my jammies! Yet! :)

E.C. said...

I say, screw the hair and make-up...let's just evict the fetuses so our hormones will stop making us so 'defensitive.' (I hope you remember that blog I wrote). I'm not saying this lady didn't say crappy things or that we shouldn't all watch our mouths better...I'm just so ready for this kind of stuff to start rolling off my back again. If I had a penny for everytime I kept Jared up since July to talk about what "seriously hurt my feelings" that day...ugh. Did I mention I think you're fabulous (even for a BOY mom, whatever the hell that means) and I can't wait until you move here??

Sara Bading said...

i have a girl and i never do my hair or makeup